Just would like to say something before I say anything else.. I am over this now and bringing this up now is sorta counter intuitive. I dont know? Maybe Im not over it?? But I have not mentioned this to any of the freaks and I just would like share this now for some reason.
Married for 11 years together for 13. Have one 9 year old son. Relationship was rocky for the first 5 years but then got better, MUCH better....so I thought...?
My wife cheated on me back in May with this POS guy at work that she worked with. A GUY FOR WHOM SHE SAID SHE HATED! Not sure of all of what they did? All I know is she was telling me that she was going to a friends house for 5 hours at a time for the past 6 months on 6 seperate occassions, without me, which I thought was too long to be at a friends house. Then noticed her becoming distant in the relationship so I checked the phone bill online. I found that she had over 300 min. in phone calls and 400 text messages to this one phone number that I did not recognize. I confronted her about it and she said that the number belonged to a guy that she worked with. She said that they were just talking, that's all. I believed her, somewhat, and then went on about my business. Then I started thinking...really hard. I decided to call her friend, the one she was going over to visit for long periods of time... I called and asked her friend, whom I barely talk to, when was the last time she saw my wife? She said December! I knew she was cheating then, because she was going over there at least 5 times after December. I was crushed...
I confronted her again. She denied it at first but then admitted, not to cheating, but to lying to me and just hanging out with this guy outside of work. Later she admitted to me that he bought her stuff and then prceeded to pull the stuff out of the closet, which she had hidden there for months without me knowing?? She said they were just friends and that he bought stuff for everyone... I decided to stay and I'm just now getting over it.
So what do you guys think, do you beleive this women? Or, does it even matter at this point. I thought my wife was innocent of this type of behavior? I married her because I thought she was different from most girls, because I felt like this women would never do something like this to me. I don't even think I care to know the truth at this point. But if my wife is a slutt and has been this whole time, then that's a different story. Then, I have to know who I'm dealing with so I can get out.
Married for 11 years together for 13. Have one 9 year old son. Relationship was rocky for the first 5 years but then got better, MUCH better....so I thought...?
My wife cheated on me back in May with this POS guy at work that she worked with. A GUY FOR WHOM SHE SAID SHE HATED! Not sure of all of what they did? All I know is she was telling me that she was going to a friends house for 5 hours at a time for the past 6 months on 6 seperate occassions, without me, which I thought was too long to be at a friends house. Then noticed her becoming distant in the relationship so I checked the phone bill online. I found that she had over 300 min. in phone calls and 400 text messages to this one phone number that I did not recognize. I confronted her about it and she said that the number belonged to a guy that she worked with. She said that they were just talking, that's all. I believed her, somewhat, and then went on about my business. Then I started thinking...really hard. I decided to call her friend, the one she was going over to visit for long periods of time... I called and asked her friend, whom I barely talk to, when was the last time she saw my wife? She said December! I knew she was cheating then, because she was going over there at least 5 times after December. I was crushed...
I confronted her again. She denied it at first but then admitted, not to cheating, but to lying to me and just hanging out with this guy outside of work. Later she admitted to me that he bought her stuff and then prceeded to pull the stuff out of the closet, which she had hidden there for months without me knowing?? She said they were just friends and that he bought stuff for everyone... I decided to stay and I'm just now getting over it.
So what do you guys think, do you beleive this women? Or, does it even matter at this point. I thought my wife was innocent of this type of behavior? I married her because I thought she was different from most girls, because I felt like this women would never do something like this to me. I don't even think I care to know the truth at this point. But if my wife is a slutt and has been this whole time, then that's a different story. Then, I have to know who I'm dealing with so I can get out.
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wow man i feel sooooo sorry for you . i have been cheated on , and when you find out , its really like someone stabs you in the heart .. the best thing i can tell you , that worked for me is , as hard as it can be , dont think about her , move on , surround yourself with freinds or other females , try a bar , meet new women , thats what i did , if i were you i wouldn't believe anything she has to say to you at this point , once the lies start , they never stop , once she cheats , most cases she will cheat again .... i know the phrase women use is " Guys Suck" but ya know for us men "women Suck 2"
