BadMoon
Demi G0D Overseer
Great post indeed moon. It's a possibility that I might be better off without her but this marriage is not that damaged from where I'm standing and I have a lot more to lose. If I didn't love her anymore or didn't have a son with her then I would be - fine, ____ let me get the hell out of here then!
This is why IMO you need to seek council. A marriage and any relationships foundation is built on trust. You HAVE lost it. So the marriage most certainly is damaged.
Now of course you still love her. If you didn't there would certainly be a problem. You are human and it shows that you truly do care for her.
I agree with Maglor that people seek divorce too quickly these days. It's such an easy out. Trust me when I say I tried to explore every avenue during my endeavor. However, if she's not willing to work with you (as in my case) you have no choice.
Also regardless of what either one of you are feeling guess who is the most important. The kids sir. As a man you have to make them your priority. However, IMO you are not doing children any justice by staying together for their sake. Usually nasty fights break out in front of the child and the vibe is hardly anything good. If it's over it's over. But you BOTH still have to take care of the child as a team.