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Whatever rick. When i am in a relationship i am NEVER smitten with anyone else, you could use this advice.


Who's rick? :huh


Also, who's smitten?

Posting in the Celebucrush thread doesn't count. :lol



And, dear god, please don't ever give me "advice" again.
 
I told her that I texted the guy on her phone, pretending that I was her. I told her that I asked the guy "if I could come over?" I told her that he said yes. I then told her if the guy said yes and that he didn't give me the address, that he said "come on over". I told my wife that if the guy told me that if he said "come on over" that meant that she knew where he lived!! Which she had origanlly told me that she didn't know where he lived and that she had never been to his place. I told her that this was proof that she has been to his place and that there was only one thing that they were doing at his place and that was, sex!! It took a lot of work to make her confess. I told her that I would not treat her different, that I would stay and I just wanted to know so I we can move forward. She bought it! Ahe then after about a half hour of lies, told me that she thought she was in love with the gut and that she had did thie guy twice with a condom but that she didn't enjoy it and that the guy was just trying to get off, that he wasn't any good in bed, that his ____ was small and skinny..... She said she had made a BIG mistake and that it will never happen again.
 
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Chav, if she really doesnt like the guy so much....then why did it take YOU finding out about her on-going actions with the guy for her to "stop"?

If you didnt find out when you did, she could very well be still seeing him and ____ing him to this very day?
 
And if the guy was good in bed - would she have stayed with him? I hope it was her guilt over what she was doing and realizing that your relationship was more important that caused her to see the error of her ways - and that it simply wasn't because of his tool.

But at least now you know the truth and time will tell if you can live with this betrayal and move forward.
 
Seriously... what nash said, plus the fact that she said she was in love with the guy. Then she contradicts herself by saying he wasn't any good? I don't get it...

She clearly has no idea and is doing what anyone does when they're panicked. Stack lies upon lies to the point where they honestly don't know. At this point, I certainly wouldn't know what to believe and the safest bet is to get out of there. Just MHO.
 
hmmm, if the guy wasnt good in bed...why'd she have sex TWICE then. small popo, skinny popo, that's one BS salad you got there man.

me thinks choosing to stay, is like handing your balls in a platter. you're giving her the impression she can walk all over you...

cut your losses man. quit while you're ahead.
 
hmmm, if the guy wasnt good in bed...why'd she have sex TWICE then. small popo, skinny popo, that's one BS salad you got there man.

Agreed. She is saying what she thinks you want to hear and your buying it. It took you lying to get more lies from her. Not going down a good path IMO. I hate to see any relationship end when one is so dedicated BUT I expect more pain in your future. Nothing is going according to someone who is truly sorry and regretful of their actions, wanting to make amends and can be trusted not to do it again.

I wish you well man.
 
She jusy told me everything... She did ____ the guy....twice!! I think Im going to stay with her though...

Dump her now. Trust has been broken. And a relationship isn't worth it if there is no trust. It will ALWAYS be in the back of your mind she slept with some other dude and you will always be wondering if she will do it again.
 
So she admitted it then? Well, that changes everything ........... dump her ass NOW! She's a disgusting person and a selfish human being. Any person willing to ruin both your partners and childs well being for some action is not worthy of a second chance. It doesn't take much more than some bedroom action to create a catastophe. The hell with her, send her ass packing. The boy should stay with you.
 
Why do you believe that she won't do the same thing again one day if a better opportunity in her mind presents itself? The fact that she said she won't after you tricked her into admitting she'd been lying to your face for months? Regardless better make sure you get yourself tested for STD's. Sorry to hear that man.
 
Dump her now. Trust has been broken. And a relationship isn't worth it if there is no trust. It will ALWAYS be in the back of your mind she slept with some other dude and you will always be wondering if she will do it again.

Everything I was gonna say. :goodpost:
 
I told her that I texted the guy on her phone, pretending that I was her. I told her that I asked the guy "if I could come over?" I told her that he said yes. I then told her if the guy said yes and that he didn't give me the address, that he said "come on over". I told my wife that if the guy told me that if he said "come on over" that meant that she knew where he lived!! Which she had origanlly told me that she didn't know where he lived and that she had never been to his place. I told her that this was proof that she has been to his place and that there was only one thing that they were doing at his place and that was, sex!! It took a lot of work to make her confess. I told her that I would not treat her different, that I would stay and I just wanted to know so I we can move forward. She bought it! Ahe then after about a half hour of lies, told me that she thought she was in love with the gut and that she had did thie guy twice with a condom but that she didn't enjoy it and that the guy was just trying to get off, that he wasn't any good in bed, that his ____ was small and skinny..... She said she had made a BIG mistake and that it will never happen again.

I like how she tries to make it okay by saying he wasn't good in bed and that he had a small ____. Would it have been a big mistake if he was hung like a bull and was good in the sack?

Good luck! I think she's just a big liar. Sorry!
 
I like how she tries to make it okay by saying he wasn't good in bed and that he had a small ____. Would it have been a big mistake if he was hung like a bull and was good in the sack?

Good luck! I think she's just a big liar. Sorry!

:exactly:...........shes just saying stuff that you want to hear man. If she would have told you what happened when you first approached her about it, that would be different, but she just lied about it for so long; imo, i wouldnt be able to ever trust that person again, even putting the act of cheating aside. The lies are just as bad as sleeping with another person in this situation.
 
I gotta agree that, from the information you have given us, this marriage needs to end.

From earlier posts I got the impression that this woman has a personality disorder with the banging her head with the telephone and the being a different person around her friends, and the never admitting that she is capable of wrong.

When you said that she admitted she cheated I had hope. That didn't last. You had to trick her into telling? And then you say that she 'thought she loved him, but then then he was no good in bed?' The whole thing just stinks. I don't even care how much is true and how much is lies. This is not a good person to be in a relationship with. (Again, from the information we have been given.)

I don't know how much you know about Personality Disorder but it's scary stuff. There are different kinds of them, and neither of us are in a position to diagnose anything, but Personality Disorders basically are not mental illness, they are character flaws. This is the person they are. It is not "curable."

Here is an interesting read about one kind or personality disorder: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorder

Here's where it gets really scary. You're familiar with the term "sociopath" right? Well that's a kind of Personality Disorder: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antisocial_personality_disorder You may literally be married to a "Psycho." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychopathy


I honestly would get away from her ASAP.

I am generally against diverse, but the fact that she committed adultery (read that word carefully: ADULTERY) changes everything. Even if she was a good person at heart, you are morally, ethically, and in all other ways free to divorce and remarry as far as I'm concerned.



And yes, you should have the boy.


I want to say one more time, that everything I have said is only based on the limited information we have. In the end this is your decision.


I really do hope for the best for you and your son. And I hope that your wife can find some kind of peace as well.
 
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